Why You Need Self Care to Create Community Care

Here’s the thing... most people aren’t lucky enough to have a community around them meeting all of their needs without CREATING that community for themselves FIRST.

If we sit around waiting for community care without practicing SELF-CARE by valuing ourselves enough to advocate for ourselves with asking for and receiving support... then we will just be sitting around becoming angry and resentful martyrs saying “stop telling me I need self-care when what I need is community care!”

Very few people have the luxury of receiving “community care” without first taking the time to build up that community and practicing direct communication so that people actually know what they need and want. Why? Because very few people are mind-readers which means that very few people will actually know what you need or want unless you tell them.

This is rather annoying, I mean, life sure would be easier if we never had to ask for what we needed and everyone else just knew! But then we would be missing the opportunity to develop our self-esteem and start believing in our own value and worth enough to advocate for ourselves and create a supportive environment where we have a community that we can lean on for support, and accept that support when people are able and willing to give it to us.

Self-Care does not = being needless and wantless and anti-dependant.

Self-Care = learning to value and honour our worth and acting accordingly, inclusive of acknowledging our innate dependency need for others.

This has been swirling in my mind for awhile as I’ve seen so many posts telling people to expect community care and I felt this needed to be said.

How have you CREATED community care for yourself? I’d love to hear about it in the comments! ❤️